..sorry for not updating, to those of you who are asking how i am.
i'm ok. we're ok. we are a bit different. she is happier. i am adjusting. we still love one another and love what we have between us (no strap-on jokes please) (oh, go on then).
you know, i'm really much better at answering questions than formulating posts. so if you want to know any more, do ask.
and thank you for caring.